Understanding how to support a friend dealing with depression and trauma can be challenging. This article provides insights into recognizing signs of depression, the importance of open communication, and resources available for support, emphasizing the need for mutual support and professional help.
In This Article
- What are the signs of depression in friends?
- How does trauma impact mental health?
- What methods can help someone cope with depression?
- How can friends provide practical support?
- What are the limits of peer support in mental health?
How do I help a depressed friend? She’s 13 and she says it’s due to trauma, and even though we’re bffs she’s never told me what the trauma is. – Anonymous.
What a thoughtful friend you are, the fact you have asked how you can help shows how much you care. Your friend may not have told you about the trauma, but she has opened up to you about feeling depressed, which must mean she really trusts you and this is something you can definitely help her with.
Depression is a common mental health problem that can affect people at many different stages in life. How bad it gets and how long it lasts can really vary. It’s often something that people find hard to talk about, as many people don’t really understand what it is.
Understanding depression
We all feel sad or down from time to time, but depression is worse than that, and typically affects the way we feel, how we think and how we behave. We know from research that people with depression often withdraw from friends and family, stop doing things they enjoy and have more negative thoughts, which make them feel hopeless. You may have noticed some of these signs with your friend.
You can help her just by letting her know that you care and that she can talk to you if she wants. If she opens up to you, all you have to do is listen. Letting someone express how they feel is very therapeutic. It may be that your friend doesn’t feel she can talk to her family or may not know where else to find support.
The next thing you could do is give your friend some information about what support is out there. For example, she can speak confidentially with Childline or find out more information on the Young Minds website. These are professional organisations that are specialised in helping young people with depression and trauma-related problems (I’ve linked to some sources below).
Coping with trauma
Most victims of trauma find it hard to talk about the trauma itself, as this can bring back the feelings and physical sensations that they experienced at the time. Trauma is defined as a deeply distressing or disturbing experience. It can be triggered by a one off event, or can be the result of ongoing stress.
People can experience trauma as a result of ordinary life events such as illness, divorce or losing a loved one, or more extreme events such as assault, injury or natural disasters. No matter how the trauma came about, I would urge you to be very careful about uncovering this with your friend – it would be better if you could seek support together from a trusted adult, or through a specialist service.
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You can also help you friend by encouraging her to keep up her usual activities, such as doing sports and seeing friends. Getting good quality sleep can also help with mood, and keeping a journal could help her to make sense of how she feels and process difficult emotions.
Don’t go it alone
But the most important advice I can give you is not to take on all the responsibility for helping your friend. There are many people and services who can support you and your friend, and this will give you the freedom to enjoy your time together having fun and sharing each other’s company.
About The Author
Lowri Dowthwaite, Lecturer in Psychological Interventions, University of Central Lancashire
This article is republished from The Conversation under a Creative Commons license. Read the original article.
Further Reading
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The Depression Workbook for Teens: Tools to Improve Your Mood, Build Self-Esteem, and Stay Motivated
This workbook gives teens practical ways to understand low mood, negative thoughts, and emotional withdrawal. It fits the article’s focus on helping a young person find support without expecting a friend to become the only source of help.
Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1641525770/innerselfcom
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The PTSD Workbook for Teens: Simple, Effective Skills for Healing Trauma
This book addresses trauma in a teen-appropriate way, emphasizing coping skills rather than pressure to reveal painful details. It connects directly with the article’s warning that trauma should be handled carefully and with support from trusted adults or professionals.
Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1608823210/innerselfcom
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The Anxiety and Depression Workbook for Teens: Simple CBT Skills to Help You Deal with Anxiety, Worry, and Sadness
This workbook offers clear tools for teens dealing with sadness, worry, and difficult emotions. It supports the article’s message that friendship matters, but lasting help often requires skills, structure, and guidance beyond one peer relationship.
Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1684039193/innerselfcom
Article Recap
Recognizing the signs of depression and trauma is crucial in offering support to a friend. Encouraging open communication and seeking professional help together can make a significant difference.
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