What if "use it or lose it" applies to far more than muscles and physical skills? The hidden power of attention shapes everything from intuition and empathy to habits, dreams,...
There is a particular kind of exhaustion that comes not from doing too much, but from editing yourself constantly. For many bi+ and gender-minority individuals, every social...
The subconscious mind governs 95% of actions, often leading to automatic responses based on ingrained beliefs. This article explores how these subconscious programs shape lives,...
The Blame Syndrome negatively impacts relationships and personal well-being, manifesting in various forms from subtle gestures to outright accusations. By understanding the...
Weekiversary posts on social media have sparked debates about the true nature of love and relationships. While they allow couples to celebrate their romance publicly, these posts...
The Moon in astrology reveals profound insights into a person's past, memory, and emotional growth. By examining the Moon's position in a chart, one can uncover patterns from...
Are you helping someone you love, or unintentionally enabling them to continue their same old pattern? The difference can determine whether a person grows stronger or remains...
Many individuals struggle under the weight of negative influences from others, which can lead to confusion and fear. By embracing self-authority, individuals can reclaim control...
Therapists often use dream interpretation to delve into patients' emotions, but true healing requires more than understanding. By breaking dreams into pieces and using free...
A while back, in the spirit of wanting things to be "better", I rearranged the furniture in the office. The changes were a little unconventional, yet the layout was more efficient and would lead to a better functioning of the office. People often have a resistance to change, especially when the change is thrust upon them without giving them a chance to make a choice. So, the reactions of my co-workers...
Veronica declares, "I confess... I confess that I find more ecstasy in passion than in prayer. Such passion is prayer." For those of us who have been taught that prayer or spirituality requires denying our passion, Veronica’s statement may come as a shock. But, as Phillip Brooks noted...
The question to ask ourselves is "Who are we becoming?" Are we living up to the child we were, or could have been? Loving, playful, wanting nothing more than to love and be loved. (I'm talking about very early childhood. Before we were tainted and "corrupted" by mind games, by competitiveness, jealousy, revenge, etc. etc.)
I remember as a child that when evening would come and I would see the first star, I would happily intone the little rhyme: "Star Light, Star Bright, First star I see tonight, I wish I may, I wish I might, Have the wish..."
Many adults struggle with an inner teenager that resists healthy habits. By acknowledging this voice and fostering a dialogue, individuals can collaborate with themselves to make better lifestyle choices. This approach not only promotes self-discipline but also enhances the relationship with personal well-being.
by Alan Cohen. Most of us have at some time thought or said, "I will never love again." In the wake of emotional pain, it is natural to want to protect yourself. And in many situations it's a good idea to retreat into a cocoon for a period of time while you regroup. The problem is that when you keep your heart sheltered...
by Dean Van Leuven. In dealing with another person's anger, it's important to be aware of the fact that the other person wants something to come out of their relationship with you. The key is to understand their expectations, and to help them understand yours. Such mutual understanding is brought about by...
When you open your life to the rest of our world, it can be daunting. It is easy to become hypersensitive to the violence and suffering around us. Maybe you cannot tolerate the extreme violence of many movies and TV shows, or even the news reports on the radio. Emotions may run high on all accounts.
How do you know when to trust someone? When people you know do something out of character or unusual, do you ridicule them or explore with them their new interest or behavior? If you're curious rather than critical, that is trust. When you're bothered by something, do you keep it to yourself and worry about it or do you...
When we arrive back home after a mountaintop experience, often we are required to deal with the maddening routines of life. Laundry has to be done, dishes have to be washed, professional work needs our attention, lawns have to be mowed, pets need to be cared for, and our families need our attention; all of these...
In the Eastern view, the dualistic energies of heaven and earth meet within the human body. Many Western traditions say as much: we are soul made flesh. Picture the divine in each of us as a ballerina en pointe. Exquisitely balanced...
Oh, dear! I did it again. Shifted gears. Things were going along smoothly, everyone was feeling good, the vibrations were pleasant and then I shifted gears. I guess you could say that I shifted into reverse. Someone said something that "pushed my button", and I shifted out of a positive and calm head-space, into one where anger and...
Relationships don't just fall apart overnight. There are warning signs to look for, signs that your levels of emotional tension are rising and that the relationship is in trouble. I call these warning signs the Four R's. The Four R's encompass the four stages of tension in a relationship...
Once when I was at a lecture, a woman approached me during the break and said, "One of our problems is we don't cultivate wise elders in this culture. People are surrounded all their lives by the belief that old age is a time of misery, defeat, irrelevance and meaninglessness..."
Self-mutilation is a big problem facing teens today. This affliction is the result of fear instilled by trauma. It is as though the brain contains a computer chip, which has been programmed, because of trauma, to self-mutilate. It is a mental trap that has taken innumerable young people hostage...
by Alan Cohen. My eight-year-old neighbor Mark keeps me on my toes. Mark asks lots of questions, which I am sometimes tempted to dismiss as childish. But when I think about them, I usually discover a profound lesson. The other day Mark asked me for a ride to the local grocery store...
One hears a lot about 'Unconditional Love'. The dictionary defines unconditional as 'absolute, with no conditions or reservations'. Not 'I love you, but...'. Simply "I love you, with no strings attached". Do you love yourself and others unconditionally? Do you love and approve of yourself and others even when a 'foul-up' occurs...
I was taught when I was a little boy that it was good to be unselfish and loving, and I used to think that I should grow up to serve other people.
by Robert Moss. When have you said to yourself, "It's only my imagination"? I've said it at a moment of strong intuition — intuition that subsequently proved to be correct — that lacked supporting evidence in the moment. I've also said it when I've had a glimpse of a wonderful future — and then betrayed that vision by diverting my energy to listing all the reasons it cannot be...
Making a loaf of Sabbath bread on Friday morning was my grandmother's favorite teaching tool. As she kneaded the dough, she said, "This is what the world does to you sometimes. It stretches you, and pushes you around, and..."
The issue of soul partnership seems to be in the heart. As you understand more about the energy of soul partnership in you, there will be less and less of aloneness and separateness.
The quest for happiness often leads to frustration, as many fail to realize that the...
Reaching sixty can evoke complex emotions, blending relief with ongoing ambition. This...
The quest for life's purpose often leads to unsatisfactory answers. This article...
Imagine going through one of the most physically and emotionally demanding experiences...
Romantic love is a complex emotion shaped by historical, cultural, and biological...
Daily actions often conflict with personal beliefs due to past experiences. By utilizing...
Have you ever argued over something that wasn't actually said? From cultural differences...
Therapists often use dream interpretation to delve into patients' emotions, but true...